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Boys don’t care….

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If you find yourself worrying about how your crush feels about you and all the things you do, then read on, you may be overthinking this.

BOYS DON’T MIND…

  • If you text first… Honestly they are often waiting for you to make the first move. Don’t feel you have to declare your undying love for them in a first text though, you could just as easily send them a funny joke, or cute picture. This will make him feel at ease when texting you back with no fear of rejection.
  • If you take a perfect selfie… Yes they may love Gigi Hadid, but they also love the funny, kooky side of you. So don’t feel every selfie you take has to be super cute or sexy. Pouts are so old fashioned now anyway.
  • How you dress in or out of school… A pair of jeans and trainers are just as attractive as a pair of heels and a skirt. The trick is to feel comfortable in what you wear, because if you don’t, he will notice and if you’re trying to dress sexy to attract him, he may find it intimidating and a turn off too.
  • If you don’t like the same music/movies/football teams as him... Part of the fun when getting to know someone is learning all about new things; their likes and dislikes. Just be sure to avoid criticizing his choices if they are not the same as yours.
  • If you like to eat… Very often boys find it awkward and a little boring if their date constantly talks about her latest diet or only having a salad. After all they like you just as you are and want you to enjoy a meal out without stressing.
  • If you change your hair... Don’t get too upset if your crush doesn’t notice your new bangs and don’t mistake his silence for disapproval. Boys just aren’t that bothered about small talk and giving out compliments.
  • If you don’t flirt… In fact they can find too much flirting a little embarrassing and scary. So don’t be afraid to be goofy and joke around. or even laugh at yourself, it’s just as attractive and will put him at ease too.
  • If you know the latest dance moves… Chances are he doesn’t and if you’re trying to impress you risk making him feel self-conscious about joining you on the dance floor. So dance like no one is watching and do what makes you happy and comfortable.
  • If your parents, try to make small talk… Remember he has parents too and they will be equally as cringe worthy in his eyes. He may even be a little relieved that your family are taking the time to get to know him and involve him in conversations.
  • Whether you ask them out first… There will always be a few boys that like to be in control and do the asking, but most are just happy to know that someone is interested in them. Even if the answer is no, don’t be disheartened, say ok and let them know you still want to be friends. This confidence and maturity will impress them and it may be that they are not yet ready to date anyone.

See Also

It's a Boyfriend Thing

Having a Crush

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@les bean

YES! Lgbtq just needs more representation in general

Little Miss

Thanks for this advice! I am always worried what my crush will think but now I can act normal around him without feeling awkward. Thanks lil lets xx🤗

Cheesy Beans

There’s a boy in my form and people think he has a crush on me but I do t know yet how I feel about him! Also my ‘friend’ keeps winding me up about him :/

willy wanka

I have a crush on one of my friends, but he doesn't have a number yet. What is worse, I am transferring to an ALL-GIRLS school. What do I do????

xoxo

so, i used to have this crush on a really cute boy in my year, and he liked me too. he asked me out, and we dated for about 6 months. I found out that i had a crush on someone else, so we broke up. he was so embarresed that he tried to pin it on his best mate! he went round telling everyone it was me and his bestie dating, but it just so happened that his bro was and still is my enemy lol

les bean

Wdym "he"and "him"? What about us lesbians? We need more representation on this website, it's a great website but I think there should be a section on sexuality, or in the Friends and Dating section there should be some stuff about it.

Cat ??

So... I liked this one boy who we will call S. My friend also *liked him but stoped. He’s really funny and smart but recently I found some disturbing dirt about him. It made me change my mind about S. He is one of the people in my friend group and one of my only friend who are boys. It’s a bit awkward nowadays because well it is. This year we are both going to different schools so I don’t think I’ll see him much. Oh! Also I saw him in my neighborhood once a couple weeks ago as I waved but he just walked away. What do I do?! Btw the dirt is about some nude images so I’m really doubting my crush

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