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Boys don’t care….

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If you find yourself worrying about how your crush feels about you and all the things you do, then read on, you may be overthinking this.


  • If you text first… Honestly they are often waiting for you to make the first move. Don’t feel you have to declare your undying love for them in a first text though, you could just as easily send them a funny joke, or cute picture. This will make him feel at ease when texting you back with no fear of rejection.
  • If you take a perfect selfie… Yes they may love Gigi Hadid, but they also love the funny, kooky side of you. So don’t feel every selfie you take has to be super cute or sexy. Pouts are so old fashioned now anyway.
  • How you dress in or out of school… A pair of jeans and trainers are just as attractive as a pair of heels and a skirt. The trick is to feel comfortable in what you wear, because if you don’t, he will notice and if you’re trying to dress sexy to attract him, he may find it intimidating and a turn off too.
  • If you don’t like the same music/movies/football teams as him... Part of the fun when getting to know someone is learning all about new things; their likes and dislikes. Just be sure to avoid criticizing his choices if they are not the same as yours.
  • If you like to eat… Very often boys find it awkward and a little boring if their date constantly talks about her latest diet or only having a salad. After all they like you just as you are and want you to enjoy a meal out without stressing.
  • If you change your hair... Don’t get too upset if your crush doesn’t notice your new bangs and don’t mistake his silence for disapproval. Boys just aren’t that bothered about small talk and giving out compliments.
  • If you don’t flirt… In fact they can find too much flirting a little embarrassing and scary. So don’t be afraid to be goofy and joke around. or even laugh at yourself, it’s just as attractive and will put him at ease too.
  • If you know the latest dance moves… Chances are he doesn’t and if you’re trying to impress you risk making him feel self-conscious about joining you on the dance floor. So dance like no one is watching and do what makes you happy and comfortable.
  • If your parents, try to make small talk… Remember he has parents too and they will be equally as cringe worthy in his eyes. He may even be a little relieved that your family are taking the time to get to know him and involve him in conversations.
  • Whether you ask them out first… There will always be a few boys that like to be in control and do the asking, but most are just happy to know that someone is interested in them. Even if the answer is no, don’t be disheartened, say ok and let them know you still want to be friends. This confidence and maturity will impress them and it may be that they are not yet ready to date anyone.

See Also

It's a Boyfriend Thing

Having a Crush


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I haven't had a crush before and I'm 12


I think I like this boy in my year but I don’t know how to tell him. Please help!

Reply to lolli

Your boyfriend should like you for who you are and he shouldn't mind that you have pubic hair- it's a natural thing- just remind him that it's natural and you don't have to shave everything off!


Wow do boys actually think this??!! I rlly hope so 😂


Great advice


i have had at lest 25 crushes😍😍


I've chatted to a couple of boys about this (3 of them 'popular') and they said that they didn't mind at all and felt bad for girls having to go through it and were very supportive and sweet. If the boy cares about you he won't mind at all and will only want to help you. Find yourself a boyfriend like this rather than wasting time with the ones who think periods are gross etc :)) xx


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