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First kiss

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If like many other girls you are waiting for your first kiss, you’ll know it can be exciting and daunting all at the same time. Lots of girls worry about what technique to use, being really nervous or that your special someone will fall into fits of laughter. Here are some tips that should make this very special moment in your life memorable:

  • Kissing is the most natural pastime in the world and whilst it’s ok to practice on your pillow when the time comes you will instinctively know what to do.
  • Being nervous can make lips dry so moisturise with a lip balm or clear gloss.
  • Don’t rush it. Relax and take your time and you could even let the other person take the lead.
  • A first kiss is a very personal moment in anyone’s life so don’t be afraid to tell your date that you would prefer NOT to do it in front of a group of friends.
  • Whilst it can be fun to gaze into someone’s eyes when kissing, some people find it uncomfortable. So, just as your lips are about to touch, gently close your eyes and enjoy the moment.
  • Turn your head slightly to the right or left to ensure noses don’t bump. Don’t worry if they do - it’s ok to laugh and it takes time to get to know what the other person likes.
  • You may ask yourself what do I do with the rest of my body… a good tip is to lightly place your arms around the other person’s neck or waist.
  • If you’re a little taller than someone, don’t worry, you can just bend your head a little.
  • Don’t feel pressured into French kissing (when the tongue is placed gently in the mouth). But if you feel that this is something you would like to try, slowly open your mouth and gently touch the other person’s lips with your tongue, they will get the hint and respond.
  • We all like encouragement but very often moaning or sighing is difficult when your lips are locked, so instead gently squeeze the other person’s arm, or simply stop, give them a smile and continue.
  • Finally, when the moment has ended don’t be tempted to pull away, instead rest your head on the other person’s shoulder and give them a hug so they understand you enjoyed your first kiss.

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I missed his lips and kissed his eye

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I have never had my first kiss. Before I read this I wanted it to happen sooner than later. Now I feel alot more relaxed about it and I'm just gonna let it happen whenever it happens! For now I will just enjoy chocolate instead!:-P:-D


My friend and I were talking about e=when we'll get our first kiss

@crazy alpaca

Go with your gut instinct and kiss him when you're both ready! Don't give in to your friends peer pressure either, I know it can seem really hard and be really annoying when they're constantly getting involved in your relationship but you've just got to let then gossip a bit and block their opinions out. Kiss him when you want not when they want you too and it'll be a lot better kiss, it's always better when the kiss isn't super planned either. Good luck, you sound like you've got everything going great :)

@never been kissed

Hiya, just relax and let the kiss happen naturally- it's absolutely fine to be nervous! What I would say though is Do Not kiss him while he still has a girlfriend as that's really unkind, you wouldn't like it if your boyfriend kissed another girl! Give him time to either decide that he wants to make his current relationship work or let those 2 end their relationship, try not to get in the way of them. Good luck :)


Hi, you're story's pretty funny, can I ask how old you/he are? I'm 15 and for the longest time now the boys I know know a lot about periods and quite often I'll have a chat to some of them about it, most really aren't freaked out by them and basically just feel sorry for us. Libby x

Girl with the winged tissues

I have the funniest story. My my two bffs who i ship together and my boyfriend so it was kinda like a double date. We went to my house and My boyfriend said what's in this draw i was like why dont you look. I though it was another draw not my period supplies and he asked why o tissues have wings since when could they fly. Me and my bff burst out laughing he ask what was so funny until he picked up the packet and went red with understanding.He ran out of the room we all ran after him and my other male bff tackled him then said you have now lost you inncocence and without thinking he replied im not innocent. We both went red and all laughed it off that was the funniest day of my life. Please reply with what you think of this story :)


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