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If like many other girls you are waiting for your first kiss, you’ll know it can be exciting and daunting all at the same time. Lots of girls worry about what technique to use, being really nervous or that your special someone will fall into fits of laughter. Here are some tips that should make this very special moment in your life memorable:

  • Kissing is the most natural pastime in the world and whilst it’s ok to practice on your pillow when the time comes you will instinctively know what to do.
  • Being nervous can make lips dry so moisturise with a lip balm or clear gloss.
  • Don’t rush it. Relax and take your time and you could even let the other person take the lead.
  • A first kiss is a very personal moment in anyone’s life so don’t be afraid to tell your date that you would prefer NOT to do it in front of a group of friends.
  • Whilst it can be fun to gaze into someone’s eyes when kissing, some people find it uncomfortable. So, just as your lips are about to touch, gently close your eyes and enjoy the moment.
  • Turn your head slightly to the right or left to ensure noses don’t bump. Don’t worry if they do - it’s ok to laugh and it takes time to get to know what the other person likes.
  • You may ask yourself what do I do with the rest of my body… a good tip is to lightly place your arms around the other person’s neck or waist.
  • If you’re a little taller than someone, don’t worry, you can just bend your head a little.
  • Don’t feel pressured into French kissing (when the tongue is placed gently in the mouth). But if you feel that this is something you would like to try, slowly open your mouth and gently touch the other person’s lips with your tongue, they will get the hint and respond.
  • We all like encouragement but very often moaning or sighing is difficult when your lips are locked, so instead gently squeeze the other person’s arm, or simply stop, give them a smile and continue.
  • Finally, when the moment has ended don’t be tempted to pull away, instead rest your head on the other person’s shoulder and give them a hug so they understand you enjoyed your first kiss.

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MaisonlaMoo

This was very helpful as I've not had a first kiss yet even though I've had plenty of chances. It's just I'm too nervous to do it! I hope this has helped me.

R

I haven't had my first kiss yet but I'm in year 8 in an all girls school so I'm kinda freaking out that I'm gonna be like 16 for my first kiss

Right Trigger

This has made me feel so much better!!

Anonymous

This boy tried to kiss me- we were together. I was on.y 11 and didn't want my first kiss yet so I moved my face and he ended up kissing my cheek it was so awkward

:(

The boy i am crushing on always flirts with me but he does it with like all the girls in my class. Next year he is going to a different school and i want to tell him that i like him before that. Also,he lives on my street (2 houses away). any advice?

Wowwwwwwwwwww

I feel confident now xxxxxxx

Karen

Helpful tips. Thanks for sharing with us.

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