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First kiss

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If like many other girls you are waiting for your first kiss, you’ll know it can be exciting and daunting all at the same time. Lots of girls worry about what technique to use, being really nervous or that your special someone will fall into fits of laughter. Here are some tips that should make this very special moment in your life memorable:

  • Kissing is the most natural pastime in the world and whilst it’s ok to practice on your pillow when the time comes you will instinctively know what to do.
  • Being nervous can make lips dry so moisturise with a lip balm or clear gloss.
  • Don’t rush it. Relax and take your time and you could even let the other person take the lead.
  • A first kiss is a very personal moment in anyone’s life so don’t be afraid to tell your date that you would prefer NOT to do it in front of a group of friends.
  • Whilst it can be fun to gaze into someone’s eyes when kissing, some people find it uncomfortable. So, just as your lips are about to touch, gently close your eyes and enjoy the moment.
  • Turn your head slightly to the right or left to ensure noses don’t bump. Don’t worry if they do - it’s ok to laugh and it takes time to get to know what the other person likes.
  • You may ask yourself what do I do with the rest of my body… a good tip is to lightly place your arms around the other person’s neck or waist.
  • If you’re a little taller than someone, don’t worry, you can just bend your head a little.
  • Don’t feel pressured into French kissing (when the tongue is placed gently in the mouth). But if you feel that this is something you would like to try, slowly open your mouth and gently touch the other person’s lips with your tongue, they will get the hint and respond.
  • We all like encouragement but very often moaning or sighing is difficult when your lips are locked, so instead gently squeeze the other person’s arm, or simply stop, give them a smile and continue.
  • Finally, when the moment has ended don’t be tempted to pull away, instead rest your head on the other person’s shoulder and give them a hug so they understand you enjoyed your first kiss.

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Reply to unicorn 101

Well most of my friends have had their first kiss so I don't see any thing wrong


I had my first proper kiss when i was 13 i’m still 13 haha, it was with this boy who when at the time we first kissed we weren’t going out, we were lying on this field talking and we were touching each others hair and i suppose it just happened it was perfect it lasted around 20 seconds and we kissed again a few minutes later it was so much better than i thought and yeah don’t be scared to kiss someone i was so nervous but when it comes to it don’t force it it will come naturally it will be lovely. Also don’t be upset if you haven’t had your first kiss yet honestly it’s better to wait for the right person rather than having the most awkward bad quick kiss with a boy you fake your feelings for :) xxx

Boo boo

Is it okay that I'm eleven years old and I've already had my first kiss?


@EMILY093 I would say that u have a surprise for him, then take him to a quiet place and make it seem almost romantic but make sure u have planned something else to do just in case he isn’t in the mood for kissing

Sweet Sixteen and Never Been Kissed

I haven't had my first kiss yet. I really want it to be special and I know who I want it to be with but I so terrified that I'll mess up or that I won't know what to do 😞


Hello Daisy here, I’m 14 and I’ve been with my boyfriend ( Oscar) for 10 months . It was the end of school and we’d just had the final lesson and we’re already to go home. He said “ see you later Dais, and off home he went. We were going out to the cinema later that evening and he got out the car and gave me a friendly hug and told me I looked beautiful I complimented him back. He grasped my hand gently as if he was asking for permission to hold my hand , and we continued to walk into the cinemas. We sat down in our seats and we were waiting for the film to start he said “ Dais , you look stunning tonight baby “ he placed his hand on my knee and gently rubbed my it until the film had started. The film we happened to see was very emotional and caused a few tears from me 😪. He looked at me and held my hand tight once more . We finally came out of the cinema and still emotional he put his arm round me and very kindly comforted me . It was around 8pm and since we live right by each other he walked me home hand in hand. We got to my front door and he put his arms round my waist and gently , slowly kissed me . It was the most magical thing !!!!!💋


mine was with my first ever girlfriend (I'm bi) in the middle of primark!! it was Frenching as well! it was sooo beyond the valley of cringe!!!


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