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Looking on the Bright Side

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Sometimes we can get so caught up with the roller coaster of emotions that puberty brings we forget how to be happy. Yes, sometimes we have to focus on our happy thoughts!

  • Keeping smiling; it’s free and whilst it may seem such an insignificant little thing to do, it can make a HUGE difference. Don’t forget the old saying ‘if you see someone without a smile….give them one of yours’. You’ll be surprised how uplifting it is to have someone smile back at you when you feel down.
  • Keep photos of holiday snaps, friends, pets in your purse or school bag, so when you delve inside you get that warm feeling when you think back to when this photo was taken.
  • Cuddly toys are not just for toddlers and there is nothing wrong with keeping your favourite childhood toy on your bed, or even taking it along with you when on school trips or sleepovers if it brings you comfort.
  • During puberty we can often be hard on ourselves, so display any medals, awards or certificates around your bedroom, to constantly remind you how fabulous you are!
  • Put on some music, it doesn’t have to be the most current chart hit, a song you and your family or friends used to love and sing-a-long to can evoke a positive feeling.

Finally, why not get a pad and make a list of all the funny or caring things that have happened during the week. Maybe you went out for something to eat with family, a friend told you a silly joke that made you laugh, a boy smiled at you, your grandparent told you a wonderful story. Then on the days when you feel a little sad, look back on the things that made you happy, memories are not only wonderful for getting us back into a positive frame of mind, they can also help us identify who and what we like and should focus on in life to feel happier.

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Roo

I started year 10 in September, which Is the year I am working towards my gcse's. All of my year got split up so we are all with new people. I said to myself at the start of term that I wouldn't show myself up, I'd be quiet and stick to myself (so I can get on with work.) But now I feel I'm not being myself and it's annoying. I don't want to seem weak, I want to seem as the girl who is chatty and crazy (who I am normally) but I'm presenting myself the way I was in primary school! But there's this girl called Evie and she is one of my friends and she is lovely, and is always smiling and can talk to anyone. She's basically who I want to be around people. I'm afraid that I come across as unfriendly but it's almost like I've forgotten how to smile at people, and that I'm pushing myself away from new people which I don't want to happen now. I reckon it's all about confidence but I can't find any? Do you have any tips? Also, I can tell when older people (young leaders at guides or teachers) don't like me and it's annoying as they like my friends. I am a friendly person I swear! I love being around people but I don't know how to show it anymore!! X

Milsa

Coolio

Girl in blue

Hi

Pinkstar

I only get a period every 3 months is this normal I got my first period at 11 and I'm 15 now but ever since then my periods have been all over the place

Mango

thanx this helped so much!

Teenagedramaqueen

What if you don't have any medals?? 😂😂 oh dear and notevenateen don't worry why don't you explore and find new music??? And surround yourself by things that make you happy because that's what I do and I have anxiety

NotEvenATeen

I don't have any awards- I'm rubbish at most things apart from academic stuff. I listen to really depressing music- "Blood still stains when the sheets are washed." Isn't really positive. What do I do? I just want to be happier :)

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