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Sexual Attraction

#feelings

During puberty, it’s very normal to start developing feelings that you haven’t experienced before, such as feeling really attracted to someone else. This is what is commonly known as ‘sexual attraction’!

Here are some of the signs you may be going through this:

  • You’ve been friends with them for a very long time but all of a sudden you see them in a completely different light.
  • You can’t stop thinking about them.
  • You get a funny feeling in your stomach when they’re with you.
  • You lose your self-confidence in their company.
  • You start blushing in front of them.
  • You don’t know what to say!
  • You want to talk about them to anyone who'll listen.
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Why do I fancy different people to my friends?

#crush , #feelings

No one knows why some people feel an attraction to another person and why others don’t!

Initially it can be linked to looks and what we believe to be attractive and this may differ from your friends, so don’t be put off if they don’t get why you like this person so much.

Here are some interesting views on attraction.

  • It’s not just how someone looks that gets our hearts racing, experts believe how they smell can contribute to this too! How can this be? The body releases little chemicals called pheromones, designed to attract a mate. You may not be able to detect this odour, but your brain will.
  • Some people seem to be attracted to someone who looks a little like them, or even like their parents. Now don’t freak out…this is because we are often comfortable with familiar things and recognise features in others we see every day at home.
  • Playing hard to get, can be deeply attractive for some people, is it the idea of having to fight to win someone’s attention…who knows!
  • You are far more likely to be attracted to someone who gives you compliments than someone who looks for your faults or uses cheesy chat up lines.
  • Finally, research would show that alcohol can change how we view the world and can make us feel an attraction to strangers, something many people regret when they are sober.
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Totally normal

#crush , #feelings

These feelings can sometimes be for someone of the same sex as you and again this is all very natural and your body’s natural curiosity towards others.

 

For some people these feelings stop and they go on to have relationships with the opposite sex as they get older. For others, these strong urges never go away. But as with any new feelings, they should be allowed to develop and not rushed.

   

It's also totally normal to have crushes on people who are older than you like teachers, sports coaches and even film, TV and pop stars. Having a crush is perfectly normal and as you get older these feelings may subside.

 
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Having
sexual feelings

#firstlove, #puberty

You might also notice that when you view images or read text of a romantic or sexual nature you feel a little excited. This is very normal and starts to happen as you get older It’s called Sexual Arousal. It doesn't mean you should act on these feelings. It’s important to know that, any kind of sexual relationship with a boy or girl under the age of 16 is illegal.

You might also feel curious about your own body, how it works and makes you feel when touched. This can often result in people masturbating; when they touch their genitalia (your ‘down there bits’) and may make you feel tingly inside. It is both a natural and instinctive activity and some people are frightened by the way this makes them feel and think masturbation is wrong or can be harmful. This is not true and masturbation is perfectly normal and it’s really up to you if you choose to do it or not!

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Amelia V

Hey, me and my boyfriend have recently made things “official”. The only problem is I’m scared to tell my parents. I’ve got no idea how to tell them, we’re both 16 so it’s not as if we’re too young but I just have no idea how to start the conversation. HELP! Thank you! X

We love lgbt

Hello dear baby gays, bi’s, pan’s, Ace’s and Trans peeps +, IT IS I, your friendly neighbourhood pansexual mum. I just wanted to let you know that if you don’t know your sexuality THAT IS OKAY. But if you do know what your sexuality is! WONDERFUL Be supportive of everyone! It’s okay to be confused. Sometimes you may feel more attracted to the opposite sex, sometimes you might feel more attracted to the same sex. That’s okay!! You don’t have to have everything figured out. - Here’s a few lgbt+ folk in media. - Robin Buckley - Stranger Things Kevin Keller/Moose/Fangs/Cheryl/Toni - Riverdale Ambrose - Chilling Adventures of Sabrina SIMON - love, Simon Captain Jack Harkness - Doctor Who/Torchwood ALICE AND ROBIN - Once Upon A Time - QUEER EYE! My fav is Antoni and Bobby and Tan and Jonathan and Karamo, who am I kidding I love them all. - Gender and sex are not the same thing. You don’t need to know your sexuality rn. Your sexuality identity may change. EVERYTHING’s OKAY - Love, your gay mother

Jae

On the off chance you actually see this Amelia - I’m 17 and just thought I’d give some friendly input. Although I think we all hope and dream of our first kiss being like a movie, I wouldn’t bet on it. The first time you kiss someone isn’t always as magical as you’d expect it to be. But don’t let that discourage you, practice makes perfect ;)

Moomoo

Totally understand Amelia why are all teen books so romantic i would love to be 💋kissed

Amelia

i really want to have my first kiss like in the movies, all...romantic. i love romance but i dont have a boyfriend, im 14. come to me, my lover, come to meeee... yes i am strange... anyone else feel this way though?

Aloah x

Idk how to express my feelings for this guy, He so nice to me and I know he likes me but the thing is..... WE ARE BEST FRIENDS and everyone would judge us, HELP

Tracer

I like this guy in my class and this helped me a lot on how to deal with it.

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