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Sexual Attraction

#feelings

During puberty, it’s very normal to start developing feelings that you haven’t experienced before, such as feeling really attracted to someone else. This is what is commonly known as ‘sexual attraction’!

Here are some of the signs you may be going through this:

  • You’ve been friends with them for a very long time but all of a sudden you see them in a completely different light.
  • You can’t stop thinking about them.
  • You get a funny feeling in your stomach when they’re with you.
  • You lose your self-confidence in their company.
  • You start blushing in front of them.
  • You don’t know what to say!
  • You want to talk about them to anyone who'll listen.
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Why do I fancy different people to my friends?

#crush , #feelings

No one knows why some people feel an attraction to another person and why others don’t!

Initially it can be linked to looks and what we believe to be attractive and this may differ from your friends, so don’t be put off if they don’t get why you like this person so much.

Here are some interesting views on attraction.

  • It’s not just how someone looks that gets our hearts racing, experts believe how they smell can contribute to this too! How can this be? The body releases little chemicals called pheromones, designed to attract a mate. You may not be able to detect this odour, but your brain will.
  • Some people seem to be attracted to someone who looks a little like them, or even like their parents. Now don’t freak out…this is because we are often comfortable with familiar things and recognise features in others we see every day at home.
  • Playing hard to get, can be deeply attractive for some people, is it the idea of having to fight to win someone’s attention…who knows!
  • You are far more likely to be attracted to someone who gives you compliments than someone who looks for your faults or uses cheesy chat up lines.
  • Finally, research would show that alcohol can change how we view the world and can make us feel an attraction to strangers, something many people regret when they are sober.
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Totally normal

#crush , #feelings

These feelings can sometimes be for someone of the same sex as you and again this is all very natural and your body’s natural curiosity towards others.

 

For some people these feelings stop and they go on to have relationships with the opposite sex as they get older. For others, these strong urges never go away. But as with any new feelings, they should be allowed to develop and not rushed.

   

It's also totally normal to have crushes on people who are older than you like teachers, sports coaches and even film, TV and pop stars. Having a crush is perfectly normal and as you get older these feelings may subside.

 
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Having
sexual feelings

#firstlove, #puberty

You might also notice that when you view images or read text of a romantic or sexual nature you feel a little excited. This is very normal and starts to happen as you get older It’s called Sexual Arousal. It doesn't mean you should act on these feelings. It’s important to know that, any kind of sexual relationship with a boy or girl under the age of 16 is illegal.

You might also feel curious about your own body, how it works and makes you feel when touched. This can often result in people masturbating; when they touch their genitalia (your ‘down there bits’) and may make you feel tingly inside. It is both a natural and instinctive activity and some people are frightened by the way this makes them feel and think masturbation is wrong or can be harmful. This is not true and masturbation is perfectly normal and it’s really up to you if you choose to do it or not!

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Comments

Amelia

i really want to have my first kiss like in the movies, all...romantic. i love romance but i dont have a boyfriend, im 14. come to me, my lover, come to meeee... yes i am strange... anyone else feel this way though?

Aloah x

Idk how to express my feelings for this guy, He so nice to me and I know he likes me but the thing is..... WE ARE BEST FRIENDS and everyone would judge us, HELP

Tracer

I like this guy in my class and this helped me a lot on how to deal with it.

Tiny

Thanks for explaining

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Jess, when the moment is right you two will be together trust me 😉 HELPING ME 2233, don't listen to all the hate people give you, follow your ❤️ LAH, it's fine to like someone older than you because I do too! LOULOU, just wait for a little longer and then you guys can date. I hope this helps you girls.

helping me 2233

i get bullied a lot for liking the wrong people as in ugly

Kurie

I think this is an awesome website, its helping me personally!

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