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Top Dating Tips

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Dating sounds quite grown-up and you may be wondering what is expected of you. Do you hold hands on the first date? And do you hug or even kiss at the end of your date? The best advice is to take things slow, after all the most important part of the word ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend’ is ‘friend’ and that’s what you should be aiming to be before you become intimate with someone. When the time is right for kissing, you will know what to do naturally without it having to be pre-planned.

After spending weeks if not months plucking up the courage to ask that special someone out, you’re then left with the problem….what to do on your first date. Here are some ideas that might help:

  • The Aquarium - this will give you lots to talk about as you walk around
  • Bowling – excellent if you are not quite ready to be alone with your date
  • Crazy golf – fun and competitive
  • See a local band – great if you share the same taste in music
  • Be tourists – why not see what events are coming up in your home town
  • Ice-skating – a great way to get close as you hang on to each other to avoid tumbling over

Let your parents know you’re dating. Ok so they may tease you or raise an eyebrow but they have a responsibility to look after your well-being and need to know where you are and who you’re with. Why not ask if you can invite your date round one evening for dinner so they can get to know them a little better. Don’t be too upset if they insist on an ‘open door’ policy if you and your date go to your bedroom! Agree curfews too so there is no confusion as to what time you should be home.

Never be blackmailed or persuaded to do something you are not comfortable to do - even if your date uses the lines: “if you loved me, you would” or “if you don’t do this, I will break-up with you”. 

Tempting as it may be, your friends do not have to know all of the details of your relationship.

Make time to be with your friends when you’re dating someone. It’s totally understandable that you want to be with your date as much as you can but friends need attention too and in most cases will be around for many years.

Finally, don’t be too upset if you find after a while you and your date no longer share the same interests or even argue. Splitting up can happen to anyone and if it does, be the bigger person and accept it and move on with a view to remaining friends.


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I have a crush on one of my best friends, and he seems to kind of like me but I am not sure. What should I do?


I am not dating anyone but my dad has specifically said that I am not allowed to have a boyfriend- he dosent even like it when I talk to them! What should I do? I'm 11 and when I do want to date someone, what should I do?


Boys don't like me because im covered in spots and dont have boobs, i wont ever have to worry about this.


I have a boyfriend but I am only 11 and I don't really want to tell my mum or dad and neither does my boyfriend so we decided to keep it secret. Next week we are meeting at a park but it is right next to my nans house so she would be able to see if we kissed or hugged or something. I am so nervous because she might see and I really want to cancel or move it to another place. Shall I tell my mum or something so that we can just meet there?

Hi people!

I have never had a boyfriend, all my friends have!


I’m 11 and I have a boyfriend. We want to go on dates but I’m too scared to tell my parents. What should I do?


Hi! I’m 11 and I have a boyfriend who I really like. We’re going to prom together at the end of the year but I haven’t told my mum or dad coz I’m not allowed to be with boys. What should I do? Hope you can reply ❤️


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