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Top Dating Tips

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Dating sounds quite grown-up and you may be wondering what is expected of you. Do you hold hands on the first date? And do you hug or even kiss at the end of your date? The best advice is to take things slow, after all the most important part of the word ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend’ is ‘friend’ and that’s what you should be aiming to be before you become intimate with someone. When the time is right for kissing, you will know what to do naturally without it having to be pre-planned.

After spending weeks if not months plucking up the courage to ask that special someone out, you’re then left with the problem….what to do on your first date. Here are some ideas that might help:

  • The Aquarium - this will give you lots to talk about as you walk around
  • Bowling – excellent if you are not quite ready to be alone with your date
  • Crazy golf – fun and competitive
  • See a local band – great if you share the same taste in music
  • Be tourists – why not see what events are coming up in your home town
  • Ice-skating – a great way to get close as you hang on to each other to avoid tumbling over

Let your parents know you’re dating. Ok so they may tease you or raise an eyebrow but they have a responsibility to look after your well-being and need to know where you are and who you’re with. Why not ask if you can invite your date round one evening for dinner so they can get to know them a little better. Don’t be too upset if they insist on an ‘open door’ policy if you and your date go to your bedroom! Agree curfews too so there is no confusion as to what time you should be home.

Never be blackmailed or persuaded to do something you are not comfortable to do - even if your date uses the lines: “if you loved me, you would” or “if you don’t do this, I will break-up with you”. 

Tempting as it may be, your friends do not have to know all of the details of your relationship.

Make time to be with your friends when you’re dating someone. It’s totally understandable that you want to be with your date as much as you can but friends need attention too and in most cases will be around for many years.

Finally, don’t be too upset if you find after a while you and your date no longer share the same interests or even argue. Splitting up can happen to anyone and if it does, be the bigger person and accept it and move on with a view to remaining friends.

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Comments

HI

I im so desprete for a bofriend to im tired of being single can anyone help me

Crush

Hi i like this boy and he’s so sweet and cute I don’t wanna ask him out what should I do I listen to everything he says and we always talk

Reply to Help Me/Alice

Hi. Unless you really like the boy that likes you then he is just a friend. And as for the boy you like try getting closer to him and spending time with him in a group of other people. Hope this helped. Flopsie x

someone

I am really desperate to get a boyfriend, I don't know what is wrong with me but I really want one.

Help me

Hey guys so basicly I like someone at school but I don't know if he likes me back but someone in my friendship group likes me but I don't really know if I like him back please help me Alice xx😰😰😰

reply to izzz

if your friend is jealous, be sure to give her attention and don't talk much about your boyfriend to her. Maybe have a girl's night! A first kiss can happen at any age, you and your boyfriend have to feel ready for it. Good luck! Xxx

Proud to be a teen

I found this column really helpful cuz I plan on asking my crush out on Monday!!!!!! I can't wait. He's so sweet and seems pretty fond of me...

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