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Feeling Overwhelmed

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Puberty is such a special time in someone’s life but can often leave teenagers feeling overwhelmed and struggling to know how to handle many situations in life. You want to be taken seriously as a young adult but can often find the world and all it has to offer a scary and anxious place.

Here are some common worries teenagers have and some tips on how to address them and feel better about your transition from child to adult.

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“I don’t understand why my crush is being so mean to me simply because I have told him and others I like him, I must be a horrible person!” This boy may not yet be ready to share intimate or romantic feelings with you…or others for that matter! He may be overwhelmed by your attention and because of this he may choose to be unkind as this is the easiest reaction for him to offer at this time.
“I have nothing to say, I just sit there in silence whilst everyone chats and joins in.” In any group there will be a mixture of personalities and being shy or quiet does not mean you are not part of the group, or that you do not have an opinion, even nodding in agreement is a form or participation, without having to say a word!
“I feel so angry, my parents don’t understand me, we keep fighting and I end up crying and it’s always me who’s in the wrong all the time.” When we feel overwhelmed we can often become angry with someone, when the reality is we are angry with ourselves. Slamming doors or shouting rarely makes anyone feel better about the situation. So take a minute and then stop and talk things through with your parents letting them know how you feel and what you need from them.
“How am I supposed to know what I want to do when I am older, I’m not ready for this type of commitment yet.” In school you may be asked to consider what career you want to pursue, it can be a scary prospect, especially if you don’t really know what you want to do and it’s normal to fear the unknown. But you don’t have to make a decision right away, instead selecting a wide range of subjects will ensure you open up lots of different career opportunities.
“It doesn’t seem to matter how hard I revise I still don’t understand the work or get good grades, my friends just seem to breeze through life.” Feeling helpless when amongst others is very common but does not mean you should give up. Doing something over and over again is key to learning any new skill.
“If I go to a party with friends I will be expected to drink, smoke or take part in sexual things…I’m not ready, but I want to fit in.” Being an individual is just as important as being part of a friendship group, so don’t feel judged for letting your friends know that you don’t want to do any of these things, but instead that you are happy just to be in their company.


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I'm the most social person ever but I am now in 7th grade and have more homework and activities that I can't afford to take a break from. Everyone talks to me for advice and don't get me wrong I want them to but I end school @3 and have track to 5:30 I feel like I have no time because I also take extra notes to fully understand the subject. Is it wrong that I have closed out my friends more. I feel guilty but they all think something is wrong with me even though I explained it however I personally prefer to work alone on assignments so it's not like I have tons of time and the friends that are not in track don't even hear me talk all day I am social but am VERY good a staying silent and locking in to the lessons although I have trouble understanding. Any tips to help me?


Does anyone else get overwhelmed be people? I like my shell. I never understand what I have to do in specific social situations (as you may have guessed from the name, I have the INTP personality type). People think I am cold and an emotionless robot. I sometimes leave a conversation unannounced and people say it is rude, I don’t understand how it is rude because I am often on the outside anyway. I think that people hate me because I don’t always pick up on social cues. Thanks for reading.

Strawberry 3

Thank you, Cold Cat x

TO Strawberry 3

Okay, I have been in this situation, so trust me on this! Make sure your friends know that it’s not fair they are pushing the argument on you. You have a right to your own opinion and to say nothing, talk to them and make them understand how your feeling, or even talk or hang out with someone else for a change. Let them clear the air and then you can go back to being friends! Hope this helped! :) from ColdCat <3

Ice cream Isla

I feel so overwhelmed with all my work and revision for year ten end of year mocks. The teachers are constantly telling us to revise and making such a big thing of it which it is cos say we did go into another lockdown, our GCSEs would be based on it. I am so stressed and each teacher tells me to revise but I only have a few free hours a night and that is not enough time. Pls help - Isla, age 15

Reply to @UNICORN 2001

@Unicorn2001, I think you should imagine and think over yourself as that option. If you where A, how would you feel, would you like it? What about B, how would you feel, would you like it? How do you think it may affect you? And think not for the present of past of what you wanted to be, think of the future. "Oh, In the future, I am likely to like option ______. So. I do not know if you have already solved it for now, if I am too late to awser u. (Lol I think I probaly am) anyway just some advice you don't really need to take.

Strawberry 3

I'm feeling kind of overwhelmed lately. We've had some issues in our friendship group and I seem to be the one left in the middle to fix it. I don't know how to make the situation better as everyone is talking behind each others backs. Any advice please?? Cos I don't know what to do going into school on Monday xx


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