TPX670
1/24/2025 1:39:43 AM
Dear Vicki
I am 19 and have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. He is so kind and caring and treats me so well. We often mention getting married together and having children and having our own house together one day. I love him so much and he loves me, but sometimes I get a voice in my head telling me to break up with him and I question if he is the one after all? I love being around him and I often feel the pure love for him in my chest, but there are times when Im on my own late at night and I find myself questioning my love for him. I really hate these moments and they make me quite upset as I dont like having these doubts about him but I cant help it. Any advice on why these doubts mean and why Im having them ?Hes not your conventionally attractive man, but I do find him attractive most of the time. He stoped playing sport a year ago and has put on some weight, which doesnt really bother me, but what does bother me is that he does no exercise at all and Im worried about his health now and in the future. But hes too lazy to do anything. His diet is poor too. Hes also not driving yet, nor has made any attempts to start. This annoys me slightly and I often nag him to start, but again he is to lazy. But in every other aspect of his life hes very driven for example his work, college, family time, friends, and me of course. But what should I do about these doubts in the back of my head? Are they right ?
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Hi, relationships are all about compromise and let's be honest here we are all different, will have differing views on what is important in our lives. What you have to consider is whether these differences in what drives you both are unimportant when based on your love for one another. Why not have an honest chat with your boyfriend and let him know of your concerns and fears, allowing him to share with you what he wants to do, what are his personal life goals...etc and you can then both work out if these align. As for the future and making plans, just hold fire on these, there really is no rush.
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