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First kiss

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If like many other girls you are waiting for your first kiss, you’ll know it can be exciting and daunting all at the same time. Lots of girls worry about what technique to use, being really nervous or that your special someone will fall into fits of laughter. Here are some tips that should make this very special moment in your life memorable:

  • Kissing is the most natural pastime in the world and whilst it’s ok to practice on your pillow when the time comes you will instinctively know what to do.
  • Being nervous can make lips dry so moisturise with a lip balm or clear gloss.
  • Don’t rush it. Relax and take your time and you could even let the other person take the lead.
  • A first kiss is a very personal moment in anyone’s life so don’t be afraid to tell your date that you would prefer NOT to do it in front of a group of friends.
  • Whilst it can be fun to gaze into someone’s eyes when kissing, some people find it uncomfortable. So, just as your lips are about to touch, gently close your eyes and enjoy the moment.
  • Turn your head slightly to the right or left to ensure noses don’t bump. Don’t worry if they do - it’s ok to laugh and it takes time to get to know what the other person likes.
  • You may ask yourself what do I do with the rest of my body… a good tip is to lightly place your arms around the other person’s neck or waist.
  • If you’re a little taller than someone, don’t worry, you can just bend your head a little.
  • Don’t feel pressured into French kissing (when the tongue is placed gently in the mouth). But if you feel that this is something you would like to try, slowly open your mouth and gently touch the other person’s lips with your tongue, they will get the hint and respond.
  • We all like encouragement but very often moaning or sighing is difficult when your lips are locked, so instead gently squeeze the other person’s arm, or simply stop, give them a smile and continue.
  • Finally, when the moment has ended don’t be tempted to pull away, instead rest your head on the other person’s shoulder and give them a hug so they understand you enjoyed your first kiss.

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I have only kissed a non family member 1 in year one

Not yet..

I am around 12 and a half and still haven’t had my first kiss. I crush on boys all the time and right now I think I’m in love with a boy in my science class. We make eye contact all the time but he’s popular and im not as popular. Hopefully, I get over him or something more happens x


I was 12 when I had my first kiss. I went into town with my friends (my girlfriend was part of my friendship group) and we decided to go into the shopping centre and when we were about to go to Sainsbury’s when one of my other friends said she had lost her hat. I offered to go back to the park to get it and dragged my girlfriend with me. After we found the hat, we sat under a tree and we had discussed kissing before over text and so it just happened and it was wonderful and when the others came to join us, we didn’t tell anyone 😆

Lovestruck ??

I have had this huge crush on this guy in school, but he has a girlfriend, and I don't know if I should tell him how I feel, what if he laughs at me?


I'm 11, and have never had a crush on anyone in my life. This boy in my class has had crushes on me a few times, and I've never been kissed by a non family member, except when we played Kiss Chase in P5, but that was just kisses on the hand. When did u get ur first bf?


So...technically I had my first kiss in 2nd grade (primary school). There was this guy who the teacher assigned me to sit with and he basically confessed his undying love for me and because I was an idiot I just said ‘okay.’ and then, the next day he told me to kiss him. And because I was such an idiot I did. that was SSOOOOOOO embarrassing and I decided to ignore him from the day onwards. And that was a smart move cause I didn’t actually like like him. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️i was such a dummy


Not about this really but since we’re here, is it weird that I want with all my life to be in a relationship with a woman (I’m female btw) and yet can only imagine myself with a man, find both attractive, yet don’t want a p*nis getting anywhere near me .yet am okay with the idea of being with a girl as long as we take it slow ... so what does this make me?? Gay with exceptions ?? Straight with exceptions?? Bi?? Just gay?? Just straight?? Helpppp


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