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It’s a boyfriend thing!

#boys

Even though we’re the same age he acts so childish!

Whilst most girls have entered puberty by the age of 10, boys are often a couple of years behind. So if he wants to play football while you want to spend time cuddling on the sofa, don’t be too hard on him.

Why do they act differently when they are with their friends?

To a degree so do girls. If your boyfriend is sweet and considerate when you are alone, but then starts being distant when his friends show up, don’t take it personally, it says more about him than you. Often boys feel it’s necessary to be ‘cool’ around their mates, not letting on that they really like someone or that this person’s opinion means a lot to them. So give him his space, he needs to bond with his friends from time to time as he transitions from boy to man…take the time to spend time with your friends too. If, however he is becoming selfish or disrespectful towards you when in company, let him know that you understand he wants to look ‘cool’ in front of his mates, but being rude is actually doing the opposite.

Boys have feelings too!

How you speak to a boy can have a huge impact on his confidence. You may think you are saying one thing but a boy may hear something completely different. For example, you say “aren’t you ready yet?” He hears, “you must be so stupid if you’re still getting dressed.” It would be far better to use a positive approach and say “how’s it going?”. It’s not what you say…it’s how you say it!

Why do they only want to date the pretty girls?

Actually studies show that 80% of boys like to get to know a girl before dating and if they are interested in them initially for their looks this will quickly subside if their personality does not match their appearance.

They’re not all the same!

You may have dated someone in the past who was always paying you attention, giving you compliments, wanting to be with you as much as possible. If your new boyfriend or the boy you like is a little more reserved, don’t take this as a sign that he does not love or care for you as much as the other boy…he simply has a different way of showing it.

And don’t be tempted to compare one relationship with another, constantly telling a boy how a previous boyfriend treated you differently, this is one sure way to knock his confidence and send him running in the opposite direction.

Why does he take ages to text me back, he must be going off me?

He may be busy, he may have nothing to say; boys rarely do idle chat and like to have a subject or question to answer. If you’ve been dating for a while, then it’s only natural that there will be a decrease in messages going back and forth now you see each other on a regular basis.

Why can’t he see he’s upset me!

Don’t expect him to just guess what he has done to upset you, let him know and then give him time to take in your comments. Boys, often process emotions a little differently to girls and may not have a response for you immediately so give them a day or so to think over what you have said.

Why does he always bring the subject round to sexual things?

Of course boys are going to be curious about sexual matters, for that matter so are girls. But don’t think this is true of every boy you meet. In fact, studies carried out in the past have shown that 60% of boys really do want to love someone and for that person to show them love back. The thought of sexual encounters fills them with as much dread as it does girls.

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TATA

some boyfriend act goofy around their friends but not all.

JUNE BUG

why does my bf constantly ignoring me but he does show affecting time to time hes sweet but im worried about him

Hi

@what Wow that’s cool, and creepy

Kokoloko

Can boys start at age ten

WHAt

The front picture of this blog looks (((EXACTLY))) Like a boy I know!

JKB

RE: BUMBLINA As a young teen, it's probably best to stay away from boys as they're still trying to figure out their life and things like that. However, if there is a boy who you have a special connection with, tell your mum about him first and she will decide what happens next.

Bumblina

What’s a good age to start to date someone, I’m way to scared to ask my parents when they think it’s a good idea to start dating! If it helps I’m a young teen.

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