IFP046

10/3/2024 8:38:48 PM

hi vicki just wondering you may have missed my question it was UAJ463 on 21st sep? just wondering if u could respond as im worried

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Hi Meg, I would advise visiting your doctor for a chat and they will be able to advise you further.

UFI321

10/3/2024 8:31:05 PM

My vagina smells and I tried liners for discharge but it still smells and its strong

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Hi, washing this area daily is key to keeping odours at bay, as is always wiping from front to back when visiting the toilet, this will help avoid faeces mixing with urine, sweat or discharge. You may also want to consider a change of liner if you find your current liner leaves you sweating, and remember to change a couple of times a day when you have discharge. Also, consider cotton underwear as this will help with sweating too. Finally, if there is itching or your discharge looks like cottage cheese and is lumpy, you may have an infection and you should share this with your mum, or the person who cares for you. They will be able to purchase some over the counter treatment for you from your chemist.

HEF186

10/3/2024 5:42:15 PM

How to know your friend does not like you because we used to be really good friends

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Hi, friendships can change quite a bit during puberty, so please don't be too upset if your relationship with your friend is not how it used to be. Hormones play a huge part in how you feel and act around others. So why not reach out to your friend, let her know you are worried about her and your friendship and ask if there are any ways you can both reconnect and be close again. Reassure them that they can be totally honest, but that kindness should always be a the front of any chats and see what she has to say, it may simply be that they are struggling with puberty and the roller coaster of emotions that comes with it.

CQU255

10/3/2024 4:57:19 PM

hey so I went to the toilet and I saw large brown stains on my underwear, I assumed it was just dirt. Then when I wiped I saw the slightestttt amount of blood very little. It's the next day and I haven't got anything? Is this a period. Its my first time by the way

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Hi, yes this is almost certainly your first period and as you have noticed it is not released all in one go, but rather over time. It's also true that for first periods they can sometimes be quite short in length and this is perfectly okay. My tip would be to wear a pad or liner for the next couple of days and then see what happens over the coming months.

CCB383

10/3/2024 3:25:15 PM

I got my first period about 2 years ago and had another period a couple of months later but I have now just turned 16 and I still havn't got my 3rd period. It's been worrying me a lot. Is there something wrong with me?

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Periods can be erratic for the first few years, remember too that not all period blood is red, so if you have been noticing any brown fluid in your underwear every month, this is also a period.  That being said, if you have not experienced any blood loss regardless of colour, consider a few other things, such as have you  been stressed? Have you lost weight recently? Are you now using contraception such as the pill, implant or injection...all of which can have an impact on your menstrual cycle.

HPM576

10/3/2024 3:15:27 PM

I met a boy in a uni. We are kinda in a friend group and He admitted feelings for me but he just got out a really serious long term relationship . I like him as a person but Im not very physically attracted to him. I also dont want to be the girl right after the 4 year relationship of the only gf he ever like I think he should be single . Meet new people do one night stands etc etc.. I dont know do I like him in the way and Ive been so confused . And I dont want to ruin the friendship or the group by kinda saying no

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Be honest with him, let him know that you like him too, but for now want to stay as friends, believing that this will benefit both of you, until you are both 100% sure how you feel and if you want to proceed. For your part this will allow you time to work out if this attraction is based on the flattery his is offering you, or whether it is something more, and based on your comments, at the moment I worry you are engaged in this conversation with him, because he makes you feel good, and when this happens taking a step back to  be friends would be advisable.

LUS683

10/3/2024 10:40:29 AM

Hi Vicki, I've recently bought new bras from M&S instead of Primark in my usual size of 32A ( I measured before I bought just to double-check ), but my breasts are spilling out at the sides where the bra curves to go under my armpit. My Primark ones fit just fine but I wanted some better quality ones hence my switch to M&S, but I think their sizing is a bit small due to the above issue - would you recommend trying a 32B, the next size up? Many thanks, Imogen x

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I would always advise trying on a bra before purchasing even if you have been to this shop before. Sizes you see, can vary from store to store and style. Possibly consider returning the M&S bras for an alternative size.

AQK252

10/1/2024 10:34:15 PM

Hi, Vicki! This may not be your traditional question, but I have been inspired by yourself and many columnists for many years in regards to becoming an Agony Aunt and I was wondering if you would be able to give some advice on how to become one career-wise? I'm always the person people turn to for advise and to help shed some light on their problems and I'd really love to be able to do my best to help people far and wide. Sadly, due to caring responsibilities for my parents I'm unable to go to university, and due to my current job constraints I couldn't even do Open University. In true agony aunt style, do you have any tips for me please? Thank you so much! Lots of love, Abigail xo

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Hi Abigail, for most customer care advisers they work in this area for a few years, so a degree or other accreditation may not be necessary. It's also true that many customer care advisors work from home so it may not even impact on your home life when looking after others. You may also like to consider working for a charity such as Childline or Mind they are always looking for volunteers.

IBI870

10/1/2024 9:16:45 PM

hi vicki i am wondering what i should do. ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now and occasionally my period is a few weeks late. we always use condoms however sometimes we do worry. i dont think i want to go on birth control as i know that there are many associated side effects. my boyfriends mom really thinks i should go on birth control as she doesnt think its fair that we both worry if my period is sometimes late, my boyfriend wants me to go to the doctors to have a conversation about birth control aswell. i know that im responsible for contraception aswell however i think its different for girls as we have to cope with the many side effects of birth control and i really dont know how to deal with this situation. i dont want to particularly take pills but i also dont want us to worry if my period is late. what would you suggest? x

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I would suggest both you and your boyfriend book an appointment with your doctor or local sexual health clinic to discuss your options, it does not always have to be the contraceptive pill that is offered and it is also true that not everyone suffers side effects from using contraception. So why not have the chat and see how you feel afterwards.

HAT485

10/1/2024 3:20:42 PM

Vicki, my pants have white sticky stuff in them, should I show my mum, what do you think this is? I am now 11 btw and in High School.

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Hi, this is almost certainly discharge a substance made by the body, to keep the vagina clean and free from infection. Check out my blog here. 

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