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Dates don’t care….

#askvicki , #boys

If you find yourself worrying about how your crush feels about you and all the things you do, then read on, you may be overthinking this.


  • If you text first… Honestly they are often waiting for you to make the first move. Don’t feel you have to declare your undying love for them in a first text though, you could just as easily send them a funny joke, or cute picture. This will make him feel at ease when texting you back with no fear of rejection.
  • If you take a perfect selfie… Yes they may love Gigi Hadid, but they also love the funny, kooky side of you. So don’t feel every selfie you take has to be super cute or sexy. Pouts are so old fashioned now anyway.
  • How you dress in or out of school… A pair of jeans and trainers are just as attractive as a pair of heels and a skirt. The trick is to feel comfortable in what you wear, because if you don’t, they will notice and if you’re trying to dress sexy to attract them, they may find it intimidating and a turn off too.
  • If you don’t like the same music/movies/football teams as them... Part of the fun when getting to know someone is learning all about new things; their likes and dislikes. Just be sure to avoid criticizing his choices if they are not the same as yours.
  • If you like to eat… Then eat and don't talk about your latest diet or only having a salad. After all they like you just as you are and want you to enjoy a meal out without stressing.
  • If you change your hair... Don’t get too upset if your crush doesn’t notice your new bangs and don’t mistake their silence for disapproval. ?Some people just aren’t that bothered about small talk and giving out compliments.
  • If you don’t flirt… In fact they can find too much flirting a little embarrassing and scary. So don’t be afraid to be goofy and joke around. or even laugh at yourself, it’s just as attractive and will put them at ease too.
  • If your parents, try to make small talk… Remember they have parents too and they will be equally as cringe worthy in their eyes. They may even be a little relieved that your family are taking the time to get to know them and involve them in conversations.
  • Whether you ask them out first… Most people are just happy to know that someone is interested in them. Even if the answer is no, don’t be disheartened, say ok and let them know you still want to be friends. This confidence and maturity will impress them and it may be that they are not yet ready to date anyone.

See Also

It's a Boyfriend Thing

Having a Crush


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Hi, I COMPLETELY get what u mean. I used have those crazy feelings like Allll the time. I sometime felt empty and embarrassed because I didn’t know what I was feeling. This might not be the same for you but I realised that I was biromantic (where your sexual feelings are different from your romantic ones)- basically picture kids, from dating,kissing ect. And yk wat, unless things get serious just fantasise, it will chill u put AND help u decide. x Hope this helps :)

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Hii. Help me please, I think I might be bisexual...... I know I definitely like boys but I've had a few admiration crushes on girls and again thought it was just an admiration thing but I think I might actually be bi now cause im starting to think about girls in the way i think about boys dating wise. Idk if you understand. But basically, I've just thought to myself, oh, am I gay? But I don't feel gay enough to be gay. And I don't feel straight or bisexual. So yeah, I have no idea what my sexuality is and I'd really appreciate some advice? ❤️❤️

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I am a lesbian demigirl. You are correct. Lgbtq+ does need more representation


I am aromantic


I find relationships stressful

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Bro I swear if my parents ever try to make small talk my gf (I am lesbo) I am running. Like straight up SPRINTING out of that place. What parent does that? OMG


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