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Bullying is when someone or even a group of people intentionally offend or physically hurt someone. It can happen for no reason and if it has happened to you or someone close to you, you will already know it can really knock a person’s confidence leaving them feeling very sad and alone. It can happen both in and out of school and is occasionally so upsetting and distressful it can lead to other problems such as self-harming or eating disorders.

So how do you know if you are being bullied? Here are some guidelines as to what is unacceptable behaviour from others.

Physical bullying

  • Hitting, pushing or knocking you over
  • Locking you in or out of rooms/toilets
  • Forcing you to do things against your will
  • Taking things away from you
  • Damaging your property

Emotional bullying

  • Threatening behaviour
  • Getting you into trouble
  • Teasing or name calling to your face or about you to others
  • Sending nasty telephone calls, texts or e-mails again to you or to others about you
  • Isolating you from your friends leaving you feeling all alone

What can you do if you are being bullied?

One thing is for sure, bullying won’t stop by itself. Bullies are almost always looking for a reaction from you and the more they see how upset you are the more inclined they will be to continue with their bullying ways.

It could be that by simply ignoring them they will get bored and move on.

Most bullies are cowards and if you feel brave enough you may want to challenge them in front of others, asking them what their problem is. If they bully you, there is every chance they bully others too and if these people see you standing up for yourself they will be more inclined to join you in your fight to stop their behaviour.

Speak to an adult it could be a teacher or a member of your family, or if you find it hard to speak about what is happening, write them a little note.

There are lots of great websites you can visit for more advice such as Beat Bullying or Childline on 0800 1111. Just by speaking to someone you will be starting to take back control of your life.

What can you do if you know someone who is being bullied?

Let this person know they have your support, even if it’s just being there to listen when they feel upset.

With a group of friends let the bully know how unhappy you are with their treatment of this person.

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to advice please

yes u are getting bullied. also really good luck on your scolarship. i have one in art. you need to stand up 2 them and show them they cant push u around. tell your mum that u r not being dramatic and you r being bullied. emotional bulling is just as bad as physicle bulling or even worse. tell a teacher or your mum and sort these guys out!!!! from shark lover

Advice Please

Hi, i'm a bit confused about whether i'm being builled or not. There's one girl who is always rude to me and mimicks me. I get overwhelmed and upset easily and she always makes fun of it. I've had trouble with her for a while and she does the same to my friend and steals her stuff. There's another girl aswell who makes comments about my hair and how I look and she makes me feel really small. She even said that I'm too obssessed with my writing and i'm not good at it anyway. Btw she mentioned this because i'm trying to get an english scholarship so I spend a lot of time writing and she really killed my confidence. I don't know whether i'm being builled because both of these girls make me upset and I cry when I get home, but it's not physical so my Mum says i'm being dramatic and they are only being annoying but they make me really sad and make me feel small.

kateie

hi thnks vikcick great blog

bullyfighter#i will answer all of your questions and concerns!!!

Hi kay i know now that you get bullied and i am so sorry for you, Here are some tips, 1tell them to get lost or tell a teacher/ grownup 2Ignore 3Tell an adult!!!! 4 Speak up for yourself 5 if it gets so bad that i can't help you anymore ask vicki about it click the button in the icon thing up there she will help i promise!!!! I hope this helps Please comment if you tried all of these things Xoxo bullyfighter!!!!

Kay

I also get bullied

bullyfighter#i will answer all of your questions and concerns!!!

Hi lonely i can totally relate 2 how u feel about bullying!!!! I have been fighting my whole life 4 this and it will be put 2 an end do not WORRY!!!! I am an amazing activist at 14 i have made a difference so DO NOT WORRY!!!! I will take care of it from here!!!! P.S. Anyone who reads this please feel free to ask me about you or someone u know who has been bullied!!!! Please always come 2 me Just write To:bullyfighter so i know that it is a note for me !!!! I will respond 2 anyone questions in under an hour i promise!!!! just pretty please feel totally free 2 ask me!!!!

To Lonely

Hiii, I dk if u will read this but if you do then my advice would be to try and keep your cool. Rather than swearing or punching, take a deep breath, look the bully in the eye and ask them what their problem is, or tell them it's really not funny, get lost. Also tell a teacher or family member. Hopefully that helps x

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