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confident

#confidence, #puberty, #selfesteem

Did you know that more than 70% of girls are unhappy about their appearance and how they fit in with friends? And whilst they are quick to see the beauty in others, they rarely recognise it in themselves!

 

The truth is everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way. It's normal to compare yourself to others. But it's not a fair comparison when you're comparing how you feel on the inside with the way others look on the outside.

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If you can relate to
feeling like this,
then fear not.

#confidence, #puberty

Here's some tips to help you feel more positive and confident in the future:

  • Make the most of what nature gave you – whether you've got silky soft hair, lovely dark eyes, or the best looking nails, there'll be something about you that you like. So make the most of your favourite features.
  • Love yourself – you don't have to go round shouting about it, but it's important that you love who you are. When you help out at home or are supportive and kind to your friends, be pleased with yourself.
  • Be proud – if you do well in your homework or feel you handled an awkward situation the right way, then well done! When you do something well, keep doing it. Yay!
  • Learn to take criticism –The truth is whatever you do or don't do, not everyone will approve of it and that’s life. Behave in a way you approve of and accept people see things differently.
  • Find your own style – Rather than strictly following fashion, spend some time thinking about what really appeals to you rather than what others may think.
  • Thinking positively - It’s up to you to decide what’s important and how you handle everyday situations. If you get into the habit of thinking negatively, you may find this becomes second nature and you may end up being negative about everything.

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    Comments

    1608unicorn

    I am confident but not socially. I feel like there is so much pressure to be cool and rich but why? You look in a magazine and thing I am nothing if I don't look like that. There is also a smart girl in my class with top grades who says I am an idiot for being the step behind and even though on the outside I handle it on the inside I don't.

    The girl in blue

    Thank you Vicki you are amazing!

    Awkward

    I'm literally so awkward with everyone that isn't my family or friends, it bugs me so much, like I can't function like a normal human!😂 There's this boy I like and literally every time I'm around him or any other boy I go bright red!! Hellpppp meee😂

    Shy girl ??

    Most people at school think that I'm a really shy person and it really annoys me, because it's not true, it just takes me a while to feel I can be myself around people and be confident with myself. I wish I could be more confident but it's so hard! If anyone reading this is a popular, confident person then don't be so quick to judge quiet people because we all have a lot going on beneath the surface! Btw I'm not saying all popular people are really judgy!! To all the shy people out there - you're not alone and love yourself for who you are and try not to wish your someone else! Xxx

    Bekah x

    Hi Dizzy, I think that for you to get better at dealing with friendships then you have to start by being yourself. I'm sure there are plenty of people that have similar interests to you, you just have to start talking to the people around you. People will want to be your friend once you are yourself and they can get to know the true you and you can do the same with them. As for this boy, if you don't feel comfortable speaking to the bullies, start by having a word with him but if you don't wish to, I think the best option is to talk to a teacher or a support person at school who can talk to this boy and the bullies. I think it is great that you clearly care about the well being of others and this is also a great start for building friendships. Good luck x

    cupcake

    This was very helpful cause I'm awkward around everyone and everything I never have confidence and act like an idiot in front of everyone I see

    Shygirl

    I used to get bullied in my last school but since I moved school I now have a great bunch of friends!

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