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DLL462

9/20/2019 12:02:22 AM

How to smell good down there? Is it true what you eat effects how you smell

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JIM286

9/19/2019 9:09:45 PM

Hu Vicki, I get Abus to school and theres this boy. Hes looks a bit weird but seems nice. Anyway there are these girls that just keep on generally being cruel to him. I want to say something but am worried that I will then get bullied. I find it so upsetting to just watch because I know how it feels. Obviously I dont join in but I dont know how to do something without getting picked on as well. Thank you x

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YTP017

9/19/2019 9:03:56 PM

I honestly feel like my presence isn't valued on this planet anymore and that it truly won't make any difference to the world wether I'm dead or not . I have had such terrible self esteem for about the last 2 and a half years and I've reached a point where I can't cope anymore . I feel like I'm never going to pursue the life I want -I want at some point in the future to be living in London with a successful , well paid self employed position . problem is that I've convinced myself that I'm a stupid m**** and that nothing I ever try and sell will be a success . I mean my qualifications aren't horrifically bad , I've got 7 gcse passes at a c or above , along with a couple of drama course qualifications but I feel like it doesn't matter what hobby i look at I'll never be good enough to make a career out of it . For example , I love drama but I personally honestly don't think I'm that good, although I've been told by people that I have skills in that area . I hate my appearance-i have a rather, in my opinion, unusual and unattractive figure, my friend is slim but she has boobs and a bum, I am bigger than her because I did go through a phase of eating too much but now I'm just sort of thick end of healthy, but even when I was a slim size 8/10 i can honestly never remember my stomach being flat , it was always slightly rounded. The thing is though, is that my bum is just sort of average , not flat but not large either and my boobs are just only very slightly average size/smaller than average -honestly , I don't want to be negative but sometimes I feel like my friend got all the beautiful , "cover girl" features whilst I got all the "that ugly fat friend that no one particularly wants to hang out with but is forced to anyway" i can just see from the way guys and boys look up and notice my friend as we walk by whereas I just get overlooked and no one does so much as raise an eyebrow . I know it's not intentional but I feel like it's really damaging to my self esteem because it makes me feel like no one's ever going to love me unless I have vogue model looks , and that's just not attainable for someone like me. To make matters worse my hair is extremely uncontrollable and wavy in texture so it always blows around in the wind , making it look like I haven't brushed or washed my hair when I have ? I also know that I need to get glasses but I've basically been putting it off for about 6 months un till my mum essentially forced me to have an appointment . The reason being is that my glasses will draw even more attention to my appearance, making me look even more of an awkward outcast than I already am. don't get me wrong , some people look really cute with glasses on but I just think that because of my awkward face shape and facial features they simply won't suit me. I truly feel like I'm just a burden on everyone around me and I feel like I'm never going to recover from my anxiety and that I'm still going to be taking anxiety medication when I'm 65 , I have thought about cutting myself repeatedly so that I bleed to death -plz help

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PMF810

9/19/2019 8:45:21 PM

Dear Vicki Do you get curves as you get older or do you get slimmer? And also there's this boy who has a crush on me but were only in year six. He every time i look at him in class for absolutely no reason he either looks straight at me or looks away. I find this really awkward and I don't know what to say to him because we are communicating through my really good friend. To add to this i am really uncomfortable with my weight and i just dont know what to do so can you please help me.

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We are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other but typically our bodies become more curvy as we develop through puberty when hips become wider and breasts become rounder and fuller.  A certain amount of weight gain is to be expected at this time but by eating a healthy, balanced diet and being as active as you can be, you will have no cause for concern for your weight.

As for the boy who likes you, why not talk to him as a friend which will eliminate any awkward feelings between you.

VCJ412

9/19/2019 7:31:09 PM

Hi! Im 17 and have been having regular periods since I was about 14/15 years old and I cannot delved when my last one was but I know it was late and now I havent had one in well over a month now and Im getting worried? Is this normal? Im not sexually active at the moment so Im not pregnant? Should I contact the doctors? Thanks

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YKK807

9/19/2019 6:21:42 PM

How will I tell when I get my first period; I get loads of discharge every day, will it feel the same as that?

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XBA845

9/19/2019 5:18:02 PM

What does 'Absolute Sort' mean?

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JCJ476

9/19/2019 4:12:14 PM

OK I know smoking is bad for you and all that jazz but my friends are peer pressuring me into smoking and I don't want them to hate me and think I'm not cool or anything what do I do

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KUR676

9/19/2019 7:11:20 AM

Hi vicki, on the first few days of my period I can always feel it coming out?? Im on the pill which should make it lighter and in a way it does however I now experience more clots than before. Ive been on the pill for about a year and a half Thanks

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OLS130

9/19/2019 6:11:06 AM

64cm under and 75cm bust what size bra? Thank you

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