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Bullying is when someone or even a group of people intentionally offend or physically hurt someone. It can happen for no reason and if it has happened to you or someone close to you, you will already know it can really knock a person’s confidence leaving them feeling very sad and alone. It can happen both in and out of school and is occasionally so upsetting and distressful it can lead to other problems such as self-harming or eating disorders.

So how do you know if you are being bullied? Here are some guidelines as to what is unacceptable behaviour from others.

Physical bullying

  • Hitting, pushing or knocking you over
  • Locking you in or out of rooms/toilets
  • Forcing you to do things against your will
  • Taking things away from you
  • Damaging your property

Emotional bullying

  • Threatening behaviour
  • Getting you into trouble
  • Teasing or name calling to your face or about you to others
  • Sending nasty telephone calls, texts or e-mails again to you or to others about you
  • Isolating you from your friends leaving you feeling all alone

What can you do if you are being bullied?

One thing is for sure, bullying won’t stop by itself. Bullies are almost always looking for a reaction from you and the more they see how upset you are the more inclined they will be to continue with their bullying ways.

It could be that by simply ignoring them they will get bored and move on.

Most bullies are cowards and if you feel brave enough you may want to challenge them in front of others, asking them what their problem is. If they bully you, there is every chance they bully others too and if these people see you standing up for yourself they will be more inclined to join you in your fight to stop their behaviour.

Speak to an adult it could be a teacher or a member of your family, or if you find it hard to speak about what is happening, write them a little note.

There are lots of great websites you can visit for more advice such as Beat Bullying or Childline on 0800 1111. Just by speaking to someone you will be starting to take back control of your life.

What can you do if you know someone who is being bullied?

Let this person know they have your support, even if it’s just being there to listen when they feel upset.

With a group of friends let the bully know how unhappy you are with their treatment of this person.

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SpiralJewel

Me and my mom think I have depression. It doesn't help that I get tormented by a horrible demon boy. And it's not just me! He physically and mentally hurts other people, and the school knows it. They just do literally nothing about it. My aunt came over and she said " I met one of your friends on the train! " She said something similar to his first name then his last name. I almost fell off my chair. But I didn't. I then proceeded to tell her all the horrible things he does. Physical bullying is VERY rare in our school and he physically and mentally bullies children everyday. With going into a new school year I REALLY hope I'm not next to him.

To unicorn

I'd say to either go and complain to the head or confront tabby. If it doesn't work, do it again. If not there are other things u can do. You can see your friend at break anyway. Although this next part probably isn't good advice, if I were you I'd probe just go do no on "gabby" :-) good luck

Unicorn

There's this girl (let's call her gabby) who really wants to be my bestie's (let's call my bestie Anne) BFF so whenever I'm sitting with my besties gabby always trys to sit with us ( now the things is I don't really get on with her and I find her quite annoying) it's always very awkward because gabby is only there for Anne and I will be going into S1 and we were allowed to write names down for who we would like in your class so me and Anne both put each other's name down but then gabby told my friends that she ask not to be in the same class as her because I was bulling her! And I made her go home crying!! (And I know it sound stupid but I just started to cry because I would NEVER to that to someone) and I'm really stressed out cause me and Anne aren't in the same class because of gabby! So if anyone has any advice on what I should do I would really appreciate it! Thanks xx

Rebeca

Im Rebeca and i pesonaly find your comments very helpful especially with my problems. i have asked quite a lot of questions and one of them was in fact about bullying.

Raspberry

hi

Jeff the pug

I was bullied in year 4 (I'm in year 6 now) and I moved school, although a girl from my old school moved to the same school. She was making rude remarks about me so I told a teacher. Now her mum ignores my mum and me, and she's our optician, so when my brother has his appointments, she WAS usually nice, but now she treats us normally, and seems to be blaming my mum. What do I do?

Annie Xx

Ummm I feel like a girl in my year thinks my squad is bullying her because pastoral has told us to be a bit never to people. All that happened was that she liked my boyfriend so my friends and his friends gave her a little hate and we stopped and we're gonna say sorry but then she called me anorexic (she knows that my cousin is anorexic and that it really upsets me) and now we just ignore her and some of my friends say mean stuff abou her. Help Xx she's called maya btw xx

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