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It’s a boyfriend thing!

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Even though we’re the same age he acts so childish!

Whilst most girls have entered puberty by the age of 10, boys are often a couple of years behind. So if he wants to play football while you want to spend time cuddling on the sofa, don’t be too hard on him.

Why do they act differently when they are with their friends?

To a degree so do girls. If your boyfriend is sweet and considerate when you are alone, but then starts being distant when his friends show up, don’t take it personally, it says more about him than you. Often boys feel it’s necessary to be ‘cool’ around their mates, not letting on that they really like someone or that this person’s opinion means a lot to them. So give him his space, he needs to bond with his friends from time to time as he transitions from boy to man…take the time to spend time with your friends too. If, however he is becoming selfish or disrespectful towards you when in company, let him know that you understand he wants to look ‘cool’ in front of his mates, but being rude is actually doing the opposite.

Boys have feelings too!

How you speak to a boy can have a huge impact on his confidence. You may think you are saying one thing but a boy may hear something completely different. For example, you say “aren’t you ready yet?” He hears, “you must be so stupid if you’re still getting dressed.” It would be far better to use a positive approach and say “how’s it going?”. It’s not what you say…it’s how you say it!

Why do they only want to date the pretty girls?

Actually studies show that 80% of boys like to get to know a girl before dating and if they are interested in them initially for their looks this will quickly subside if their personality does not match their appearance.

They’re not all the same!

You may have dated someone in the past who was always paying you attention, giving you compliments, wanting to be with you as much as possible. If your new boyfriend or the boy you like is a little more reserved, don’t take this as a sign that he does not love or care for you as much as the other boy…he simply has a different way of showing it.

And don’t be tempted to compare one relationship with another, constantly telling a boy how a previous boyfriend treated you differently, this is one sure way to knock his confidence and send him running in the opposite direction.

Why does he take ages to text me back, he must be going off me?

He may be busy, he may have nothing to say; boys rarely do idle chat and like to have a subject or question to answer. If you’ve been dating for a while, then it’s only natural that there will be a decrease in messages going back and forth now you see each other on a regular basis.

Why can’t he see he’s upset me!

Don’t expect him to just guess what he has done to upset you, let him know and then give him time to take in your comments. Boys, often process emotions a little differently to girls and may not have a response for you immediately so give them a day or so to think over what you have said.

Why does he always bring the subject round to sexual things?

Of course boys are going to be curious about sexual matters, for that matter so are girls. But don’t think this is true of every boy you meet. In fact, studies carried out in the past have shown that 60% of boys really do want to love someone and for that person to show them love back. The thought of sexual encounters fills them with as much dread as it does girls.

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@lost teen

Hey I hope everything's going well for you :) I would just say take everything as it comes and see how it goes, don't be too quick to do anything (as long as you don't want to that is) basically just make sure both of you feel completely ready to anything before you do. I think the main thing is communication, you need to be honest and open with each other and feel happy to tell him what you are and aren't comfortable with and he should understand that, and vice versa! I promise everything will be fine and you aren't gonna mess anything up, it shouldn't matter if you're less experienced than him or anything like that, just relax and if he makes you feel good about yourself and feel happy, go for it. Good luck with everything :) Rose xx

Lost teen

Hi Vicki. I'm 18 in February, jve never really had a boyfriend. I work in a supermarket and just before xmas this boy came in who I though was cute. We've been talking since new years day and have met up a few times. He just asked me out, I've said yes. I'm just worried about it going bust quickly as it's so soon. By the way he's just turned 20 and hes never had a proper relationship but I know hes had sexual experience. Sorry if that last bits too much. I think I'm just nervous and really dont want it to go wrong as we get on well. Any advice would be useful.

anonymous

As it said my boyfriend still acts really childish but it's really cute because he does the silliest of things and it always makes me laugh.we both have loads in common and we always play football together.

Replying to @LGTREE

Hi he's playing football all the time because he enjoys it, it's healthy for your relationship if you both have time apart and both carry on doing hobbies you enjoy/ meeting up with friends etc. Although I would say that if you feel that he isn't making time for you or you are putting in more effort than he is I'd be honest and chat to him about it- it's only natural to feel jealous. Hope this helps ~ Lia xx

Berrie V.

I'm 12 and people in my class are pushing me to get a boyfriend. I keep telling them that my happiness doesn't rely on someone who could potentially kick my heart through the dirt. They always make me and a boy that they ship me with in the same group or pair. They keep teasing me because we do things like tie each others aprons in art, sit close together even though we could spread apart or that we have overly good chemistry and concentration when we play Romeo and Juliet together. It's really annoying me especially know that one of them told the whole of year 7 that I have a crush on him. I might do but I am not sure but I do care about him alot. it might be like sibling caring or maybe more, I don't know yet. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙈😖

lgtree

why is my boyfriend playing football all the time

bagel

this is very helpful as do have a bf but I feel like I only get to spend time with him with our friends around not alone.

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