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How do I deal with these
feelings I have for someone?

#firstlove, #help, #puberty

Your head might be whirling with all these new feelings you have for someone. But what do you do!?

Here are some tips for getting to know someone better.

Don't look away! It may give him the wrong impression and he may think you're not interested. Boys are not mind readers, so when you see him in the corridor or classroom, smile and say “Hi”.

Ignore your friends if they don't think he's cute. It's good they don't like him too. But don't be put off. Good friends should support your choice no matter what.

Rather than asking someone on a date, why not invite a group of friends to go somewhere? This takes the pressure off it being a date and gives you a chance to get to know each other better while having a laugh with your friends too.

If you find they don’t feel the same way about you, don’t worry. Everyone is attracted to others for different reasons and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, it just means you're not suited.

One last thing, no boy is worth losing a friend over, so if you find yourself attracted to your friend’s boyfriend, step away. NOW.

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APPY GIRL

ive had a crush on the same gut for almost 4 years and a couple 1/2 cushes ( were you like 2 people @ the same time ) but never stoped liking them for 4 yers

Xoxoloverslife replying to @newbie

Heyyy girl, I know how you feel, I currently have a big crush on this guy and haven't speaked to him in months.Have you read my stories? That may be interesting they are just below your comment😜If you can give me more details about the situation I could maybe give you some advice? Xx

Newbie

OMG guys HELLLPPPPP!!!! I have the BIGGEST crush on this cute, hot boy and I’m really scared to tell him! PLS HELPPPP

xoxolovers life

Heyyy, so i told you about alfie... time for story 2! Lets call this boy Kaylen, i was so obsessed with him for about 2-3 years, i seriously thought i would never stop liking him! Soo, basically he was my second crush, and the one i actually told people about. I started liking him after i got over alfie. So, let me take you to to the beginning of year 4 (grade 3) he was new, i spotted him in the classroom on the first day, his beautiful green eyes, brown fluffy hair, tanned skin, cute smile and cute accent. LOADS of girls had a crush on him, My close friend, lets call her pippa had a big crush on him at this point too and called him hot. WE watched him play basketball and it was soooooo cute, I remember i really liked him but whenever someone said they liked him i said oh really and i never admitted it. I was sat next to my best friend. Lets call her freya we are crazy so i was like hysterical lol. She didnt know at this point. A boy sat next to kaylen, lets call him Gavin, said that kaylen had done all his maths! I thought he was trying to show kaylen off to me. Then kaylen would always say hi to me in the corridors and ask me if i was alright, he would see me and my mum walking home and wave at me and then... i have to say this is the most romantic thing that has ever happened to me. And looking back now i still cant believe it happened, if this happened to me now i woukd ask him out immediatley!! Its literally like something that would happen in an american high school romantic movie from like 2008 or something, anyway. It was P.E and we were doing javelin, i couldnt throw it properly so he came over to me and said, "Let me show you how to do it." I let him, he held me, holding me by the waist and putting my arm up, showing me how to hold the javelin, then i threw it and he looked at me and said "there you go" and then he let go and smiled and walked away, at that point i was so embarrased but at the moment i cant stop thinking about it!! sometimes i wonder whether it was a dream but its so vivid to me that i know it cant be. I am now sure that he liked me at this age but he defo doesnt like me now. He likes baddies and is not the most respectfull, i think i liked him because of his looks. But at the start of secondary school, in the lunch line, he said hi to me and freya and asked if we were alright, it was super sweet but i dont know what it was done out of. I still look at him sometimes and in the back of my mind i think that i will always like him, maybe just for his looks or maybe for the fact that for a little minute i was stuck in a teen romance movie. Anyway, it makes a good story to tell my future children and grandkids,

xoxolovers life

Heyyy, so today im telling you the story of my first crush!! This is the first part of my stories. So, i was in year 3 (second grade) and there was this boy.. i found him really cute and kind and funny. (lets call him alfie) when i did my solo in my year 2 performance, i was singing and every time i practised it he would cry as he was emotional! After that i developed a crush on him, i was only 7 or 8 so it was a big thing for me something i hadnt every really experienced before lol. I sat next to him in class and he was very emotional at that year for some reason so he used to cry a lot i would try and comfort him which i thought if i did that he might like me. I didnt tell anyone about the fact that i liked him and kept i a secret. Anyway it was breaktime and i was playing with one of my friends, lets call her summer when a girl ran past, aflie had ended up liking in year 3 and had previously liked. lets call her maya, anway she ran past with lets call her emma and was shouting alfie likes you!! I liked him too. I didnt build up the courage to ask him if this was true, so i never knew. Before he got with his recent girlfriend he had a crush on someone else, i wondered whether it could be me. He has a girlfriend now and we are 12 but sometimes, like last night when we were prank calling all our friends together, i feel a spark and i wonder if maybe, just maybe we might be soulmates.

xoxo

I have a big crush but im wayy too afraid to tell him!!

Im just a girl

I had this crush on a boy for soooooo long! He was really cute and nice but popular. I dont have a crush on him anymore because he spread a BIG rumor about me and everyone belived him ( because he was popular). I soon realized he is snob.

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